Barrie Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 that people in here are trying to take offence at anything others try to ask or say. Is it the faze of moon or maybe people worried about the recession or is it that people want to be unhappy? :roll: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whetu Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 that people in here are trying to take offence at anything others try to ask or say. Is it the faze of moon or maybe people worried about the recession or is it that people want to be unhappy? :roll: Yeah I noticed that too, Barrie. With some people I think there might be a cultural difference - it's how they speak in real life and to us reserved kiwis it sounds pretty rude! Generally they come from cultures where they value speaking in a 'straightforward' manner but to us it seems like they're saying "shove off, stupid!" which is not how they meant it. With others I think they are already feeling hurt or offended by something else and are feeling a bit defensive, so anything you say is likely to be taken as a negative. Anyway, don't take it personally. I, for one, appreciate your input and am interested in your opinions (especially in your area of expertise - I have never known so much about glass before!) *hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oeminx Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 I think you are completely wrong Barrie ps were did you avatar go? edit: o just found the answer they don't know what they are missing personally you have been so helpful to me in so many ways and if people keep acting this way you wounder why you should help. at least it hasn't hit the killie section Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barrie Posted March 16, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 I will only PM and ask if people want help from now on unless I already "know"them all my details are now deleted and if it was allowed, I would change the name Yes, Im really annoyed about the way people try to take offence The only person I have let down... through lack of time... is Spink and Im feeling so bad about that Now wheres a tree and some rope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryanjury Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Sorry to hear about this Barrie, I know that you have offered nothing but good advice and helped alot of people out on here. Your experience in your line of work is often called upon and is invaluable in this hobby, not to mention the things you do with the killie club there have been many who I know have received freebies or invaluable advice from you. Unfortunately you have pointed out the main reason why there are alot of very experienced people who don't bother to post and try and help people out. It is nothing to do with the mods or the way the forums are being run it is the people on here and the way they take things some people just can't take good advice, and also seem to want to take everything as a personal attack. It is very hard to express tone or intent through typing and people always seem to read into everything and see what is not there or meant Anyway Barrie I know there are plenty of people who appreciate your advice and help so I hope that you keep continuing to offer it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livingart Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 no rope barrie, use a bungie cord then you can punish yourself over and over again we are all humans and entitled to voice our opinion you were merely expressing yours and somebody expressed theirs you broke no guidelines if some one wants to be offended by what you say remember it is their problem and not yours sadly the written word is not really able to express emotion too well and all to often can be taken in a way that was never intended by the author some of us know you for what you really are not the thick skinned rhino but the teddy bear only too quick too help others sometimes the tone of the site is not what it used to be please don't join the number of people who don't post as much anymore as you, like each of us, are a small part of what makes this forum what it is P.S. before i answer someone who has said something to upset me or just been nasty i think to my self, what has happened in their day or even life to make them feel like that then i feel sorry for them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VinsonMassif Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Sorry to hear about this Barrie, I know that you have offered nothing but good advice and helped alot of people out on here. Your experience in your line of work is often called upon and is invaluable in this hobby... It is nothing to do with the mods or the way the forums are being run it is the people on here and the way they take things some people just can't take good advice, and also seem to want to take everything as a personal attack. I totally agree. Seriously - some people need to relax. :roll: Barrie I view your knowledge and experience a real asset in our hobby. I hope you continue to share this with us Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barrie Posted March 16, 2009 Author Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 feel a bit better after a couple of Merlots Thanks people Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenix44 Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Barrie - don't worry about it. seriously. if no one posts on here, then this place shall not exist and that shall make people sad so smile on and everything shall be fine :bounce: it is very hard to convey emotion when one types a message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HaNs Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 What did i miss? another spat on fnzas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenix44 Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 *nods Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livingart Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 nod nod Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A-town... Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Barrie you have some of the best advice and when I do visit I generally stay to hear you share your knowledge with me aswell as your wisdom. More people need to learn how to respect others. :bounce: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livingart Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 respectful nod Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aaron-Betta Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 dang it, I missed it again... :-? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caryl Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Serves you right Aaron-Betta. You obviously aren't in here often enough Don't let one person upset you Barrie. It can't have been too bad if it only took 2 merlots to help 8) People seem to forget the purpose of this site is to be friendly and helpful so people find their hobby enjoyable and stress free! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alanmin4304 Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Hang in there. Stay cool till after school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caryl Posted March 16, 2009 Report Share Posted March 16, 2009 Your age is showing Alan :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livingart Posted March 17, 2009 Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 or as Billy T used to say "keep the perk till after work" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whetu Posted March 17, 2009 Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 Hang in there. Stay cool till after school. http://www.nzonscreen.com/title/after-school-1980 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whetu Posted March 17, 2009 Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 or as Billy T used to say "keep the perk till after work" http://www.nzonscreen.com/title/billy-t-live-1990 (A later Billy T appearance, but still fun.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeh_buddy Posted March 17, 2009 Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 Dont worry about it Barrie as my mum would say "Water off a ducks back." :lol: Please dont become one of those people that stop posting, the void you would leave behind would probably devastate alot of good people on this forum who do appreciate your experience and knowledge. I dont have any killies or much interest in them but I would be sad to know that there would be one less experienced and knowledgeble person available on this site to ask for help with something. Whenever I make a post on any forum I always try to use the Smilies to emphasis what I say to try and inject some emotion into my words. To some people it make come across that Im just 'smilies trigger happy' but at the end of the day I liket to think it helps with people not taking my words the wrong way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luke* Posted March 17, 2009 Report Share Posted March 17, 2009 so what happened? in what section? gotta love some people's love of melancholy melodrama. no offence helpful barrie but it's "appears".. see this forum is great.. even in this thread i can help you with english lol :bounce: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caper Posted March 18, 2009 Report Share Posted March 18, 2009 NO Barrie, we need knowledgeable people here and you are one of them! How else will people like me learn???? It's true that how we write sometimes could be entirely interpreted differently if the word was spoken instead of written! I know even myself, I might write something in a way that looks like I'm having a panic attack (ok, maybe sometimes I am :oops: ) but sometimes it's just an expression in words as opposed to how I might actually "say" it. Oh, you know the old saying "you can't please everyone"! Caper Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mj Posted March 19, 2009 Report Share Posted March 19, 2009 feel a bit better after a couple of Merlots Thanks people lol that seems to be what gets me in trouble :roll: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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