You must be talking water pumps? If so there isn't any way to really run them at less than full capacity. They always run flat out, the best you can do is restrict them. Like slowing a car with the throttle stuck wide open by standing on the brakes to go the speed you want.
Generally bigger is going to be noisier, quieter is going to be more expensive. In the water will be quieter.
First you need to decide how much flow you want then go from there. If you want 2000lph through the filter you'll probably want a pump rated at around 3000 or more LPH at 0 head.
I'd personally go for a Laguna pump. Good price, good performance, a bit noisier than something like an eheim, but far cheaper.