I can definitely recommend picking one person off the forums who lives close, and going to visit them for a chat/look at their tank. Then do this with another, and another etc
I found that it was _far_ easier to get advice and information when every conversation didn't turn into a huge discussion about stuff I didn't understand :lol:
Seeing people's tanks in the flesh gives you a great appreciation for the costs involved, and the reasons for doing things the way they have as well.