twinkles Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 It's my eldests 5th birthday tomorrow, I'm nervous as heck lol. She's not the least worried about starting school but i was lying awake for ages last night worrying about it. I'm worried she wont know what to do, or she'll get lost in the playground, or no one will want to be her friend, or she'll think the teacher is scary, or she'll miss preschool too much. I'm sure none of that will happen but its terrifying none the less. Why does no one warn you when you're pregnant how scary it is being a mother? I'm sure i'll be more nervous on friday than i was on my first day of school. Everytime i think of a new thing to worry about her dad says stop being silly, she'll be fine, but i can't help it. What if i put the wrong things in her lunch, or forget to put something in her bag she's supposed to have? I'm sure some of you have been through this and its all turned out fine on the day? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caryl Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 You want some horror stories? :lol: My eldest couldn't wait to go to school and had no problems. I couldn't wait for her to go either so I had no problems. Second born was perfectly happy to start school but I didn't want him to go. He had been very ill up until then with major surgeries so I worried he would get hurt or bullied. Neither happened, the other kids were very protective of him, and we both coped well in the end Your feelings are very common and you will quickly calm down. She has been going on school visits hasn't she? So will know what to expect. She will probably be given a "friend" whose job it is to make sure she knows where everything is and where to go. So you might forget to put something in her bag. What are they going to do - have her expelled? Make sure she has a healthy lunch she likes and all will be well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southerrrngirrl Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 It's my eldests 5th birthday tomorrow, I'm nervous as heck lol. She's not the least worried about starting school but i was lying awake for ages last night worrying about it. I'm worried she wont know what to do, or she'll get lost in the playground, or no one will want to be her friend, or she'll think the teacher is scary, or she'll miss preschool too much. I'm sure none of that will happen but its terrifying none the less. Why does no one warn you when you're pregnant how scary it is being a mother? I'm sure i'll be more nervous on friday than i was on my first day of school. Everytime i think of a new thing to worry about her dad says stop being silly, she'll be fine, but i can't help it. What if i put the wrong things in her lunch, or forget to put something in her bag she's supposed to have? I'm sure some of you have been through this and its all turned out fine on the day? Awww. I don't have kids so never sent anyone off to school but I sure remember my first day of school. I remember being too scared to talk to anyone. And my Mum had given me money to buy a pie for lunch. Somehow I managed to get the pie token, (they worked a system whereby you handed over your money for the pie when you got to school and in return they gave you a "pie token" which you handed over at lunchtime to get your pie) but when it came time to reedeem it for my pie at lunchtime, I had no clue of where to go I can recall wandering around with this token in my hand trying to find the canteen area. Someone must have found me and sorted it out cos I ended up getting my pie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinkles Posted July 28, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 we've been for a very quick look at the classroom, no proper school visit yet, because her teacher has been off sick all term with the flu. She's supposed to be back today so i'm just waiting for them to ring then we'll be going in this afternoon for a couple of hours, and the same tomorrow. But the teacher has been to visit preschool twice so she knows her a little at least, and we've got a nice book they give out at enrollment about 'what will i do at school when i am 5' which runs through everything they do in a day with photos, so that should help too. She was worried last week that she might get a boy for her 'buddy', has been reasurred that it will be a girl though lol. Unless the girl is away on friday it will be one of her friends who left preschool a few weeks ago, so fingers crossed she's there. We live one house away from the school so she's used to going there to play on the weekends, and seeing all the school kids going past on their way home, and all the preschool teacher's kids go there so we usually see them picking up their kids each afternoon too. Oh and her nana is a teacher too so she's been to visit her school lots of times and seen what they do there. I'm sure it'll all be fine really, but i still can't turn off my worrying voice in my head. I'll be glad next week once she's settled in and everythings fine, and i'm sure i'll feel silly then for worrying so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinkles Posted July 28, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 and i'm definatly not letting her buy her lunch for ages, until i think she can without problems, i remember going to buy lunch at intermediate when i first started and it was scary with all these huge kids pushing and shouting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bilbo Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 I was a huge sook when my eldest had her first day at school. 2 years ago now and I can still remember feeling like the the world was about to end. I know all will go well. For you :-) Dear World: I bequeath to you today one little girl...in a crispy dress...with two brown eyes....and a happy laugh that ripples all day long..and a flash of light brown hair that bounces in the sun when she runs. I trust you'll treat her well. She's slipping out of the backyard of my heart this morning...and skipping off down the street to her first day of school. And never again will she be completely mine. Prim and proud she'll wave her young and independent hand this morning and say "Goodbye" and walk with little lady steps to the schoolhouse. Now she'll learn to stand in lines...and wait by the alphabet for her name to be called. She'll learn to tune her ears for the sounds of school-bells...and deadlines...and she'll learn to giggle..and gossip...and look at the ceiling in a disinterested way when the little boy 'cross the aisle sticks out his tongue at her. And now she'll learn to be jealous. And now she'll learn how it is to feel hurt inside. And now she'll learn how not to cry. No longer will she have time to sit on the front porch on a summer day and watch an ant scurry across the crack in the sidewalk. Nor will she have time to pop out of bed with the dawn and kiss lilac blooms in the morning dew. No, now she'll worry about those important things..like grades and which dress to wear and whose best friends is whose. And the magic of books and learning will replace the magic of her blocks and dolls. And now she'll find new heroes. For five full years now I've been her sage and Santa Claus and pal and playmate and mother and friend. Now she'll learn to share her worship with her teachers..which is only right. But no longer will I be the smartest woman in the whole world. Today when that school bell rings for the first time...she'll learn what it means to be a member of the group..with all its privileges and its disadvantages too. She'll learn in time that proper young ladies do not laugh out loud...or kiss dogs..or keep frogs in pickle jars in bedrooms..or even watch ants scurry across cracks in sidewalks in the summer. Today she'll learn for the first time that all who smile at her are not her friends. And I'll stand on the front porch and watch her start out on the long, lonely journey to becoming a woman. So, world, I bequeath to you today one little girl...in a crispy dress...with two brown eyes...and a flash of light brown hair that bounces in the sunlight when she runs. I trust you'll treat her well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whetu Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Aaawww twinkles it's lovely that you're worried about your "baby's" first day at school - that's exactly how you should be! Parents have an instinct to protect their kids no matter what, and it looks like your instincts are working perfectly! :lol: It sounds like your little girl has had all sorts of opportunities to get to know the sorts of things she will do at school, and if she's already familiar with the playground and the teacher, she's pretty much got it sorted! My sister joined a gym recently, and left her one-year-old in the crèche while she worked out. First time the little guy has been away from her with anyone other than immediate family. She asked the staff to come and get her immediately if he started crying or showed any signs of distress. An hour later she finished her workout and went back to the crèche. Her little boy was sitting on the floor playing with some toys. She called out to him, he turned and looked at her, and went back to playing with the toys. Not only was he anything but distressed, he didn't seem to have missed her at all! :lol: She said she was very happy that he was just fine without her - but admitted later that she would have kind of liked him to show some sign that he missed her when she was gone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whetu Posted July 28, 2009 Report Share Posted July 28, 2009 Oh Bilbo that's lovely! I do have a problem with this bit though: She'll learn in time that proper young ladies do not laugh out loud...or kiss dogs..or keep frogs in pickle jars in bedrooms..or even watch ants scurry across cracks in sidewalks in the summer. I think I must have been away from school the day that lesson was held. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinkles Posted July 29, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 that's a beautiful poem Bilbo, it captures the feeling perfectly. I guess that's what its all about really, after 5 years of spending nearly all day every day together, its time for her to go out on her own, do things without me watching over her, make her own friends, make decisions and learn things without refering to me constantly, and of course i have to worry if i've taught her enough, or the right things, if she'll know how to interact with everyone else. The fantasy world preschoolers live in is so innocent and fun, everything is clear and simple, its sad in a way that they have to grow up and learn to deal with things in the real world. All the kids from preschool who will be in her class are lovely though, i'm sure she'll make friends again easily. Whetu thats what she was like with starting preschool, i worried and stayed for a bit, then said goodbye and left for an hour, when i came back she wasn't ready to come home. So i'm sure its only me thats so worried lol. She'll never learn not to laugh out loud, but i'm sure one day she'll learn to keep quiet when the situation demands. The kids round here are mostly from farms, so they'll probably catch frogs and play in the mud together, no prim little girls here. And she'll probably still sneak up in the night to bring our old dog into her room to sleep by her bed, even though he occasionally disgraces himself by peeing on the floor, she worries he'll be lonely in his bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zev Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 One of the mothers at the primary school where my kids went told me that when her first child started school she took the morning off work so that she wouldn't be panicked about dropping her off, and so that she could be there if her child needed her. She walked her child to their class, and looked around the room in a mild state of panic lest her child would not cope with the new environment. When the bell went, the other kids sat on the mat, as did hers, who turned around, beckoned her mother over with her hand, and then whispered in her ear - 'what are you still doing here, don't you think you should go now?' She left the room, got into her car and promply bawled her eyes out! The school my youngest now goes to have a rule that parents are not allowed in the classes after the bell goes, unless they are parent help. They have found that the kids get clingy and play up if the parents are there, and they settle quicker if they are not distracted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wok Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 We couldn't wait to get rid of our kids to school. So glad they found school more fun than being home. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrienne Posted July 29, 2009 Report Share Posted July 29, 2009 Your daughter will be fine. I work in the office at a Primary school and I am in charge of the enrolments so I get to meet all the new entrants when they come for visits and again on the morning of the first day of school. 19 out of 20 times the parents are more nervous and worried than the children. They are always buddied up and at that age children are nice to each other and caring. New entrant teachers are one of a kind as well. Know that she will be well looked after. Take her to class, give her a kiss and say goodbye when the bell goes and go enjoy your day. If she knows you don't want to leave it will be harder for both of you and should anything happen the school will phone you. Enjoy the last few days with her at home before she ventures out into the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinkles Posted July 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 30, 2009 well the morning went fine... she was up and dressed into her uniform at 4.30 this morning, trying to wake her little brother up to play without me hearing lol. Spent the next 4 hours asking if it was time for school yet i stayed at the back of the class while they had news time, then they were going to play a game so i said i had to go now, and she looked a bit freaked but just waved goodbye, she was sitting with all her ex-preschool friends by then. So i'm sure she'll be fine. When we went for our visit yesterday they asked who already knew her, and half the class did from being at preschool together. Now i've got a long quiet day till its time to pick her up and find out how it was and what she thinks of it, quiet for the little brother too. I think we'll do water changes on all the tanks, that'll take all afternoon Also spotted on our visit yesterday an empty tank in the back of the room.... will be talking to the teacher this arvo to offer to set it up and maintain Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caryl Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Well it's 3.27pm she ought to be home by now. How did it go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinkles Posted July 31, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 great see i knew i'd feel silly worrying lol she was fine when i picked her up, the teacher said she'd been great all day and not shy to ask when she doesn't know something. Just finished telling me some of the things they did today. Didn't want to take her uniform off Phew! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caryl Posted July 31, 2009 Report Share Posted July 31, 2009 Told you so didn't we? :lol: It still doesn't stop your worrying and it won't be the last time either :roll: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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