Thanks for the link, very helpful. I talked to a family friend who's a builder and he reckons at least a 2 x 6 as well.
As for the refugium, well many reasons. Firstly i think it's quite a novel idea, it would be a rather unique setup. Although the main reason is that i can't have a soil substrate in my top tank nor any plants because i have a turtle. He was how i got into the aquarium hobby. He would dig up all the soil and make a huge mess, plus whenever i put plants in his tank he just rips them up. Furthermore, it'll be a good hospital tank for turtle relates fish injuries (Very rare) and a good place for breeding. Lastly, it will heavily aid in filtration which is always a plus!
I will be making the refugium myself and the justification for the 6mm glass thickness is that the three planned baffles will also act as fantastic braces for the tank, i imagine that there will be no bowing at all.
The top doors will have a small vertical beam hanging down above the refugium where the doors will "clip into"using things like these