A LOT of detritus. Try it and see.
It doesn't work that way in the ocean, and it won't work that way in a tank. Try and see how much flow you need to achieve that. You'll probably find you won't have sand left on the bottom for very long ;-) Also bacteria are part of the problem in sinking this stuff. The nitrogen doesn't have to be in solid particulates for it to get there, and neither does the phosphorous. If you have nitrogen (as nitrate) in soluble form, then you are going to have P in soluble form too. Large amounts P will still find their way into storage there.
Best thing to do, rather than deny it's happening, is just recognise that you can't change that behaviour just by changing the flow over the bed. The only way to change it is by cleaning the bed. Then focus on replacing the bed, or adding more depth to the bed, before things change.
It's all going on, it has to, otherwise the sandbed doesn't "work".
Also realise that the typical nitrogen cycle explanation you hear of ammonia -> nitrite -> nitrate -> nitrogen gas is not quite as straight foward as that.
Nitrogen is cycled too (just like phosphate) some is converted into ammonia some into nitrogen gas. Some of that ammonia is assimilated by benthic algae, some will be oxidised back through nitrite -> nitrate.
All these processes are going on so that the sandbed can do it's storage and denitrification.
Layton